If you like it, put a ring on it – while it might seem like a bed of roses till that point, the phase afterwards is when a couple faces real challenges, a few of which can really put their relationship to the test. Some couples successfully cross the hurdles, while others are unable to go the distance. When the latter group is asked the reason, a common response is “The spark between us had faded/was gone”.
Yes, this 5-letter word has deep significance in a relationship, and is one of the vital factors that keeps a relationship alive and makes it work. Here are a few tips for you to follow:
Talk to each other
It is important to reconnect every day, even if it is for 10 minutes. You can do it before getting out of bed in the morning, over breakfast, or any other time that is convenient for the both of you. The goal is to update each other about work, kids, etc. and enjoy 10 minutes of peaceful and uninterrupted conversation. A light-hearted conversation with your better half can be a wonderful stressbuster after a long day at work!
Don’t have sex just for the heck of it!
A common mistake made by several couples is having sex mechanically. They think the spark will come back automatically if they do it like a routine. Sex is not just for physical pleasure but mental stimulation as well. You should enjoy and look forward to it – that will only happen if you get creative, indulge in foreplay including kissing and making out, and make the effort so both of you are satiated equally.
Have date nights
It is easy to lose the spark in a crammed schedule consisting of kids, doctor’s appointments, work, and so on. Allocate one day every week for your “date night” and get a sitter or friend to watch your kids. Go out to a restaurant, watch a movie, and spend quality time with each other. Surprise your better half with a gift during these nights (doesn’t have to be extravagant all the time)! It will help to maintain the love and passion in your relationship.
Change of scenery
When you feel fatigued and stressed, the ideal way to relax is to temporarily move away from the hustle bustle by going on a vacation. Couples with hectic lifestyles that caused frequent problems between them, have often come back from holidays with a new lease on their relationships. A change of scenery can successfully rekindle the spark between the two of you!
Each relationship is different, but it doesn’t take much effort to say “I love you”, right? That itself can keep both of you moving ahead in a positive direction regardless of other difficulties.